More Joy, Less Fear Attitude Media's Guide to Safe Sex

Sex is a great and powerful life-affirming force. At Attitude Media we believe life should be lived, not experienced vicariously through pornography or virtual reality.  Too often, especially for men, modern life means living through others; watching others have sex, or play sports, or watching the news. Life is meant to be experienced, not watched; but lived carefully and thoughtfully. We hope this guide enables you to make good decisions.

Attitude Media is providing this guide as a public service.  The purpose is not to scare anyone, but to allow those engaged in consensual adult sexual activities to be informed and make their own choices about what activities in which to engage.

We’re not going to preach; as long as you have the consent of your adult partner, we don’t really care what activity you engage in, but we do care that you are safe, and not catching or spreading an infection.

We have taken an unusual approach to organizing this guide by activity, because each user knows exactly what activity they have engaged in or are considering, even if they don’t know anything at all about STDs. So we’re hoping this provides a simple and easy way to access the material, rather than wading through a lot of discussions that may not apply to you.

The risk chart is the heart of this guide, and it can be found here.

Introduction: Sexual Activities and Sexually Transmitted Disease Risks

About Risk


Risk Chart


Oral Human Papillomavirus (Oral HPV)

Oral Herpes (HSV 1)

Epstein Barr Virus


Molluscum Contagiosum

Hand to Body

Molluscum Contagiosum


Mouth to Breast/Nipple

Man’s mouth to woman’s breast/nipple – Man’s Risk

Man’s mouth to woman’s breast/nipple – Woman’s Risk

Oral Herpes (HSV 1)

Woman’s Mouth to Man’s Breast/Nipple – Man’s Risk


Woman’s Mouth to Man’s Breast/Nipple – Woman’s Risk

Oral Sex

Oral Gonorrhea

Man’s Mouth to Woman’s Genital (Man’s Risk)

Oral Gonorrhea

Oral Herpes (HSV 1)

Man’s Mouth to Woman’s Genital (Woman’s Risk)

Woman’s Mouth to Man’s Genital – Man’s Risk

Woman’s Mouth to Man’s Genital – Woman’s Risk

Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV)

Oral Gonorrhea

Oral Herpes (HSV 1)

Sexual Intercourse (without condom)

Hepatitis C (HCV)

Hepatitis B (HBV)





Human Papillomavirus (HPV)

Genital Herpes (HSV 2)

Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV)

Pubic Lice

Genital Yeast Infection


Additional Information

Pregnancy chance on unprotected sexual intercourse

How to Use a Condom

Condom’s Most Errors

Male Condom Failure Rate (Pregnancy)

Female Condom Failure Rate (Pregnancy)