““It’s not just positive feelings we want,†Seligman wrote in Authentic Happiness. “We want to be entitled to our positive feelings.†In other words, you want your happiness to feel earned—through your achievements and other things you’ve put serious effort into. Happiness tends to come from the often-hard-to-attain state of “feeling satisfied with how your life is going, that you’re progressing along toward your life goals at a pace that’s satisfying to you,†Lyubomirsky says. And that usually happens when you feel as though your life has purpose and you’re involved with other people.”
